When was the last time you changed your mind about something? I’m not talking about some in-the-moment decision, like ordering the steak or the quinoas salad. I’m talking about changing your mind on an important topic or even changing one of your core beliefs. I asked myself this question…when was the last time that I changed my mind? The answer was alarming.
I’ll save the deep exploration of my own thinking for the video portion of this post. Suffice to say, I found it really difficult to come up with examples where I changed my mind on a significant topic. This surprised me, because I see myself as an open-minded person. If that is true, then why don’t I have a bunch of examples where I changed my mind? Is it because I’m just on the right side of the argument most of the time? Wait, don’t answer that.
Let’s talk about the phenomenon of changing our minds. To keep us on track, I’ll focus on three key questions:
Why Do We Resist?
Simply put, we love being right and we hate being wrong even more. It seems obvious, but what is really going on here? It’s a survival instinct, I think. I probably should not pet the grizzly bear. If I admit I’m wrong in front of my team, it may undermine my authority. If I admit that I’m wrong to my spouse, she may think less of me, or worse, she may use it as leverage against me in the future. So much of our personal identities are invested in our ideas and our positions, no wonder the idea of surrendering them feels threatening.
This happens at a cultural level too. Humans love being part of a tribe. We’ll do anything to preserve our place in the tribe, which means going along with the prescribed set of positions and beliefs, even if we find contrary evidence. Scientists call this cultural cognition.
On some level, changing our minds represents a threat to our very existence. No wonder we are slow to move.
What is at stake?
Well. Everything, actually. The implications of clinging to bad ideas are far reaching.
For example, how will people view your leadership if they know that it is impossible to influence you with evidence and rational argument? How will your personal relationships be if people feel they must always come over to your side of the argument? How long will you live if you cling to the belief that a diet consisting solely of vodka and ice cream is really good for you?
Your health, your career, every relationship, even your very soul is at stake. Do you want to make decisions based on accurate information on inaccurate information? Of course, the answer is obvious.
What can we do?
How can we make ourselves more likely to change our minds in light of better information? Is it even possible? I hope so and there is evidence to support this. Here are a few ideas:
Summary and Call to Action
We are wired to cling to our ideas and beliefs, even if better ideas and evidence come available. Although this may provide a temporary sense of stability and comfort, it does not offer a tenable long-term strategy for living. We need to practice changing our mind so that we can ensure that we’re always standing on solid ground.
Prosperous Journey,
-zog
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